Monday, March 03, 2008

Single Sex Edjucaysion

I went to an all girls' school. I probably didn't hate it as much as I feel like I did, but I wasn't a fan. Me (and my family) have always been somewhat anti-social, and as a result, my social life when I was at school WAS school. So going to an all girl's school meant I just didn't talk to boys. So boys were like this alien species and I had no idea that they were actually regular people, and not to be feared. I spent pretty much my entire life up to age 18 convinced I was hideous and would never get kissed by a boy let alone ever have a relationship. Then I went to College and discovered that I was only thinking that because I had been in such an unnatural environment the whole time.

That's my main issue with single sex education- it may garner better results than mixed education, but at what cost? It's not right to have a sexual apartheid (ok, I'm being over the top here) when people are at such a formative time of their lives. You have highly educated people who have no idea how to interact in actual society.
I feel the same about the ridiculous attempts in various religions to cover up women and make them some foreign unknown- it only leads everything to fuck up.

So anyway, I read this entry on Jezebel in support of single sex education, and this was my response:

NO. No no no.
I went to a girl's school. It is the worst way of bringing someone up. To put them in a sterile environment devoid of half of the population that that person will encounter in their adult life, making the opposite sex an alien to them- it's so SO victorian and counter productive. You might get better grades, but you won't set them up for real life well at ALL.



I am sure that there is agreat deal of 'grass is always greener'ism here, but still, if I ever had kids, there is no way IN HELL I would put them into single sex schools. It's tantamount to human rights abuse!! :o
(ok maybe not that extreme)

16 comments:

WildbillthePirate said...

There really are no Right answers in this,I think. I would have All-Girls' Schools rather than no schooling for girls at all.(Our Own not-too-distant History and in many of the the less-developed countries presently) I believe in co-ed and am a product of such a system- I didn't enjoy High School, even if I was good at it. If the preson, girl or boy was struggling to stay focused in school, removing a possible distraction might just work.

I am less sanguine about it from the female perspective. Did you miss all that much? I don't see anything Obvious but it all depends on the personality.

greenteapot said...

i went to an all girls school (catholic! no less) and i agree compleeeeetely. from being a boisterous tomboy during my primary school days, to general alienation of the opposite sex during high school, sixth form however was a break for freedom and i was regained with male friends. but i turned more girly. it was a sickening sacrifice. however it can swing the other way completely because by year 11 half of the girls in my class were pregnant. haha. maybe regular interaction with males can stop the over population of the planet, and to do so would be down with girl's schools.

Eshniner Forest said...

Sounds evil really.

Anonymous said...

Paperlilies said:

"I spent pretty much my entire life up to age 18 convinced I was hideous and would never get kissed by a boy let alone ever have a relationship. Then I went to College and discovered that I was only thinking that because I had been in such an unnatural environment the whole time."
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Yeah, I bet that you discovered quite a bit upon entering University. In any event, you obviously don't get it. Being cute and a freakish, hermit-like weirdo is your entire appeal--well, more or less. I'm now entirely in favor of single sex education for women.


Dave

Anonymous said...

I don't know.... When I was in school they had a catholic all girls school and all boys school right next to our public coed school.

By separating them during school hours didn't seem to keep them from seeing or dating the opposite sex outside of school hours.

I went to all coed schools, but I'm still afraid of the opposite sex at times. Actually more often than not.

Anonymous said...

Couldn't agree with you more.
I went to a private school that was co-ed, but some classes were segregated and it def. effects you and how you react to the opp. sex. I also think it has a lot to do with how your family is like, what they teach you, and how they themselves interact...

Anonymous said...

depriving people of access to the opposite sex in their most formative years? most definately some form of human rights violation.

Anonymous said...

I'm studied in a Catholic girls school until I was 16, and it wasnt so bad with the boys because we often had stuff where we tie up witht he boys schools. And out of school most of us have church friends who are guys, or we hang out with the boys school people..
But I see where youre comin from.

Goose said...

Its always schools with religious ties that do it. I bet half the people who finish schooling there choose a different religion or become athiest.

For secondary school i believe children should be allowed to make there own choice.

Lizz said...

I agree with everything you said. I went to a girls school and in Junior school all my friends had been boys (tomboy, just got on better with boys) so going to a girls school left me confused and in an environment i just didn't like. Then it took years until i could have male friends again without feeling awkward and weird about them. Stupid single sex schools! bad idea!!!!

Anonymous said...

I think this video show the best results of shool only for boys or girls.

http://pl.youtube.com/watch?v=z2s1lxcw1mk

For me is so stupid idea... When people grow up they need to spent their time with a lot of different society groups! It create our personality! You need to taste all fruit to decide which is the best xD

Greedion

SuperJV said...

I went to an all boys school. Five years of boarding school. My first year of university I was overwhelmed by all the females around of my own age (I almost forgot they made them). I didn't think it was weird at the time however, it was normal. The old argument was that you were 'less distracted' by removing the opposite sex. This assumes of course, among other things, that all the kids are 100% straight. The interesting thing is that since then, there are almost no single sex schools left, most (including mine) have long since gone coed, so it's kinda part of a different era.

One of the debates we had every year in the debating club was about the school becoming coed or not. I actually debated on the "no" side. I do think however, at the end of the day that you are correct, miss Lilies. Sexual segregation is bad. Any kind of segregation is not a good thing, and is artificial. And I'll tell you, we had dances with some girls schools, and wow, the vibe in those places was terrible. It was vicious. I can't imagine anyone sending their daughter to an all girls school now. Awful. What tends to happen in the same sex school is that whatever the (negative) attributes or stereotypes of that sex... they tend to get exaggerated. In my school the kids tried to be more macho. In the girls schools It felt very catty and nasty. Anyway, this post was interesting, it's something I know :)

tlg847 said...

I went to an all boys high school. It was a mistake. It's a bad idea to segregate kids just when they most need to practice being with the opposite sex. I know there are plenty of educational arguments for separate sex schools but, on balance, I agree with you: the negatives definitely outweigh the positives.

vclamp said...

At the college dorms, the girls only area had twice the rate of pregnancy & suicide as the co-ed area, and the small boys only area had somewhat higher grades. The students always chose where they would live.

hannah said...

what about ur brother?

Cornelius Prime said...

I went to an all boys school and my family was somewhat anti-social and it surely does affect the way you see life. Anti-Social's Unite into a loose Configuration of Non Affiliation.